放“过去”一马，和自己和解

中等

高中三年级

说明文

个人情感

在生活的长河中，我们常与自己发生冲突，过去的错误、遗憾和痛苦如同阴影般难以挥去。然而，真正的成长在于学会与过去的自己和解，迎接更美好的未来。

Many people still carry the burden of their childhoods on their shoulders and in their hearts, even though they are vastly different people now. Most painfully, many people haven’t made peace with their former selves. This inability to live their adult lives based on who they are rather than who they were interferes with many aspects of their current lives including their happiness, personal growth, goal attainment, and relationships. Given these challenges, how do you make peace with your past self so you can live a life of meaning, satisfaction, and joy with the latest version of you? Here are some steps.

许多人仍然把童年的负担放在肩上和心里，尽管他们现在已经完全不同了。最痛苦的是，许多人无法与以前的自己和平相处。这种不能以“现在的自己”而不是以“过去的自己”为基础的成年生活，影响了他们目前生活的许多方面，包括他们的幸福、个人成长、目标实现和人际关系。面对这些挑战，你如何与过去的自己和平相处？这样你才能过上有意义、满意、快乐的生活。这里有一些步骤。

1. Embrace Your Humanity

1. 拥抱你的人性

When you embrace your humanity, you accept that you don’t always act in admirable ways, particularly when you are young and are driven more by your unconscious urges than conscious choices. I use the word “embrace” because, after perhaps decades of distancing yourself from your past self, you can now give your younger self the embrace you have longed for for so long and, along with it, the love you craved then and have craved ever since.

当你拥抱你的人性时，你就会接受你并不总是以令人钦佩的方式行事，尤其是当你年轻的时候，你更多地受到无意识的冲动而不是有意识的选择的驱使。我之所以用“拥抱”这个词，是因为在与过去的自己保持距离几十年后，你现在可以给年轻时的自己一个你渴望已久的拥抱，随之而来的是你当时和现在一直渴望的爱。

2. Acceptance

2.接受

You were who you were, you did what you did, and there is nothing you can do to rewrite the past. You have likely suffered sufficiently for your wrongs with perhaps daily self-punishments and certainly a particularly painful kind of long mental suffering. Accept your past self and then move on. Though you can’t change the past, you can create a future that can help you atone for that past.

你就是你，你做了你该做的，你无法改写过去。你可能已经为自己的错误遭受了足够的痛苦，也许每天都有自我惩罚，当然还有一种特别痛苦的长期精神折磨。接受过去的自己，然后继续前进。虽然你不能改变过去，但你可以创造一个未来，帮助你弥补过去。

3. Be the Best Version of Yourself

3. 做最好的自己

Another aspect of your ability to alter the future is to make intentional choices to not be the person you once were and to be the person you wish you had been in the past. Who do you want to be? What values do you wish to live by? What attitudes and beliefs do you want to guide your life? And, ultimately, what impact do you want to have on your world? From these thoughts, you will identify and can then strive to be the best version of yourself.

你改变未来的能力的另一个方面是有意识地做出选择，不再是曾经的你，而是成为过去你希望成为的那个人。你想成为什么样的人?你希望以什么样的价值观生活?你希望用什么样的态度和信念来指导你的生活?最后，你想对你的世界产生什么样的影响?从这些想法中，你会发现并努力成为最好的自己。