女儿被同学欺负怎么办？父母可以这样做

较难

初中三年级

应用文

教育

每个家长都希望自己的孩子自信乐观、智慧勇敢、善良坚强地成长着、生活着，并为此付出了很多努力。那么，当女儿在学校被欺负了，作为父亲，你应该怎么做呢？

Ten years ago, my daughter came home from school and told me some classmates made fun of her. I told my nine-year-old daughter that if anyone ever did that to her again, she should beat them. That was really bad advice. What my daughter needed me to teach her was how to deal with uncomfortable feelings. That’s what your daughter needs too. Here are three tools your daughter can use that are better than a beat when someone makes her uncomfortable.

十年前，我女儿放学回家，告诉我一些同学取笑她。我告诉我九岁的女儿，如果有人再这样对她，她应该打败他们。那真是个糟糕的建议。我女儿需要我教她的是如何处理不舒服的感觉。这也是你女儿需要的。这里有三个你女儿可以使用的工具，当有人让她不舒服时，它们比节拍要好。

A safe place

安全的地方

If your daughter has an uncomfortable experience with her classmate, she needs to know it’s safe to talk to you about it. You need to communicate to her that she isn’t alone, that she is loved, and that you believe her. This creates a safe place for her to deal with uncomfortable feelings.

如果你女儿和她的同学有不舒服的经历，她需要知道和你谈论这件事是安全的。你需要告诉她，她并不孤单，她被爱着，你相信她。这为她创造了一个安全的地方来处理不舒服的感觉。

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你不能控制你女儿在学校对朋友的选择。然而，你可以用积极的关系来包围她。这些人可能是努力培养你女儿的人。你不能完全远离那些会让她不舒服的人。但是你可以鼓励她花时间和那些会鼓励她的人在一起。

You can’t control your daughter’s choice of friends at school. However, you can work to surround her with positive relationships. These can be people who are working to build your daughter up. You can’t completely stay away from people who will make her uncomfortable. But you can encourage her to spend time with people who will encourage her.

实践

Practice

你可以鼓励你的女儿通过和她一起练习来应对这些困难的情况。在潜在的情况下跑步可以让她做好准备，所以当她发现自己处于困境并想知道如何处理不舒服的感觉时，她会觉得自己有工具。例如，你可以让你的女儿分享一个同学让她不舒服的时间。然后问，“在那段时间里，为了创造安全，你能做什么或说什么？” 重要的是不要让她感到抱歉。